HowToManageYourSexDrive
How to manage your sex drive.
This article is not finished by a long shot.
Thinking about sex
Thinking about sex is something most people do, especially young people. Probably young men? and teenage? boys do it more. This is normal and natural. It is also part of your becoming sexually mature.
However, it can drive you crazy (metaphorically speaking). I would offer the following tips. The idea is that you are thinking about sex for a reason. It's good that you are thinking about sex, because that is how you are becoming mature to do with sex.
- If you think about sex, when you think about sex, try to think about sex maturely and respectfully, or even reverently
- Avoid anything, or anyone, that makes you think about sex when you don't really feel comfortable with it (see below)
- Don't try to think about what what the private parts of the opposite sex look like, or other attributes about them. It's not going to help you.
- Don't try to imagine having sex. It doesn't work that way.
- Think about love instead of sex, and not only love of the opposite sex that you might end up being able to have sex with.
- Think about how to improve your life, get a better job, get a better house or apartment, get along better with all your family neighbours, become a better person, etc. This is what you should be putting your sexual energies into.
Try to limit your thinking about sex to a limited time each day. Or even each week, or even each month. In that time try to detox from all the sexual provocation or arousal you've been exposed to. Try to think about sexual maturity in a serious, responsible way. It's okay to think about how uncomfortable it is not to be having sex. It's even okay to think that you're suffering, but try not to let it get out of hand.
Imagining about sex, or sexual fantasies
Advertisements and media manipulation
Medication
Marriage
The marriage gap
This should be merged with the the marriage gap article.
The marriage gap is the term for when young people have to go a long time between the onset of puberty, and being mature and established enough to get married and have sex. This time can be ten years or longer.
I don't know, and no one in society seems to know, what you are supposed to do with your sex drive for that time. It's a significant unsolved problem in society.
I don't think you should have sex in uncommitted relationships, join hookup culture, look at porn, or sleep around. All of those things are undesirable or bad for you.
Maybe the above tips might help. Maybe you should just partner-up with someone you trust in your early adulthood until you get to the real marriage. Maybe you should just try masturbation. Maybe you should just try manual sex (mutual masturbation or fingering) with a partner. (It's less intimate than sexual intercourse.)